Women. We are our own harshest critiques. Maybe it is because we are told at a young age not to be vain? Not to say that we are pretty? To be humble, to describe ourselves as plain so that we aren’t seen as boastful?
Maybe it is the impact of the mass media on us? What they try to tell us is “beautiful” in the magazine pages, which is actually a Photoshopped version of reality that isn’t attainable by anyone that is human? Like the time that Redbook decided that Faith Hill needed an arm so skinny that she has no elbow.
Whatever it is, it has to stop.
You are amazing. You are beautiful. You are incredible.
I am so in love with this Real Beauty Sketches campaign from Dove. We study ourselves in the mirror every day, yet no woman could accurately describe her features, and the language that they use about themselves is so harsh. It was heartbreaking to watch it, and I cried at the end.
If only you could see yourself as the rest of the world sees you, then you would know how beautiful you truly are. It looks nothing like what you see in the pages of the magazines because you are so much more than that.
This is something I also need to remind myself of on a daily basis, but I know that it is true thanks to all the women I’ve been fortunate to work with. That knowledge makes it so much easier for me to remember.
YOU ARE ENOUGH.
10 replies on “How You See Yourself vs How the World Sees You”
I think it’s because we are taught from an early age that our worth is in our looks, either explicitly or implicitly.
I finally got around to watching this, I’m going to show it to my 13yo daughter tonight.
Jenni posted this great article about the commercial. And I sort of agree – we are all beautiful but why emphasize beauty so much? We don’t tell men that they are more handsome than they think. We say they are strong and smart. I want to change the saying to say: “You are are intelligent. You are strong. You are amazing. You are enough. http://jazzylittledrops.tumblr.com/post/48118645174/why-doves-real-beauty-sketches-video-makes-me
Elaine Mesker-Garcia, I agree – and you may have seen that I ended my post with YOU ARE ENOUGH.
BUT … I think that everyone cares about their looks. Men and women. And for me, the point of the video is that if you listen, they use such negative language about themselves. I hear this all the time in my studio. ALL the time.
So the whole point – from my perspective – is that how we see ourselves is NOT how the rest of the world see us. That is why I do what I do. I want to help every Hot Mama to rediscover their beauty. (Which is always so much more than skin deep.)
I know you agree with me, I guess I miss hearing any emphasis on intelligence and strength. It does tend to focus on beauty and making sure we find ourselves beautiful enough. Also, the article made other points in regards to the commercial. It pointed out that the featured women were not diverse and that even the way they were described by strangers focused on stereotypical descriptions (thin face, blue eyes, etc).
@christinebpc @Dove but they still want us to be ashamed of our armpits.http://t.co/yO1gy8D83G. so should we hate ourselves or not dove?
Elaine Mesker-Garcia it is hard for me to photograph intelligence and strength though … but I am ALL about showing women that the world sees them as more beautiful than they think they are.
Almost all of my clients come in to do sessions as a gift for their husbands. My goal is for them to leave with the BEST gift for themselves. This video just really hit home for me on how important that is, and how great the disconnect is between what we think we look like and what the world sees.
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